Guilty M'Lud


What exactly am I guilty of today?


Well, after many years of being on the personal development journey, I realised, very recently, that on a number of occasions in the past, I have used my personal development knowledge to beat myself up.


Yes, I was guilty of assault…on myself!


In the past, when things got less than easy, the first thing I would do was to let my inner voice join in and have a go…“with your NLP skills, you should know better” or “If you were good at personal development, you’d know how to deal with this”…believe me, I could find 101 reasons why I should be handling any situation ‘better’!


Would I have said these things to my best friend, if she had shared her challenges with me? Where was my compassion for myself? What happened to treating others how I would like to be treated myself…or rather treating myself how I would treat others!


Luckily, my self imposed ‘sentence’ for this misdemeanour has been to spend 2013 learning to love myself, have compassion for myself and really put myself back into the equation of my own life. To be honest, this has become a life sentence I am fully committed to and I am enjoying every minute of it.


And the reason I share this is because I was talking with a member of ANLP the other day, and she invited me to have the courage to share this with others…because I might just be surprised to find I’m not the only one who uses my personal development knowledge as a stick.


If any of this resonates with you, then I would encourage you to be as gentle, compassionate and understanding with yourself as you would your friend.


What exactly am I guilty of today?


Well, after many years of being on the personal development journey, I realised, very recently, that on a number of occasions in the past, I have used my personal development knowledge to beat myself up.


Yes, I was guilty of assault…on myself!


In the past, when things got less than easy, the first thing I would do was to let my inner voice join in and have a go…“with your NLP skills, you should know better” or “If you were good at personal development, you’d know how to deal with this”…believe me, I could find 101 reasons why I should be handling any situation ‘better’!


Would I have said these things to my best friend, if she had shared her challenges with me?


Where was my compassion for myself? What happened to treating others how I would like to be treated myself…or rather treating myself how I would treat others!


Luckily, my self imposed ‘sentence’ for this misdemeanour has been to spend 2013 learning to love myself, have compassion for myself and really put myself back into the equation of my own life. To be honest, this has become a life sentence I am fully committed to and I am enjoying every minute of it.


And the reason I share this is because I was talking with a member of ANLP the other day, and she invited me to have the courage to share this with others…because I might just be surprised to find I’m not the only one who uses my personal development knowledge as a stick.


If any of this resonates with you, then I would encourage you to be as gentle, compassionate and understanding with yourself as you would your friend.

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